#ThePowerOfYet

3 weeks into 2019 and I can confidently say I feel like 2019 is settling in nicely... I know, late to the party by 20-something days - but I got here nonetheless! When I think about it, I'm never one to feel all the magic, glitter and fairy farts on "Day One" of anything!? I always want to see how things REALLY are for myself, and that takes time. I think that's why I'm always the friend who tries stuff first and reports back to everyone like "Ok people, we have a new trend here!". You name it, I'm the idiot venturing out into the unknown to report back! But seriously, I'm always slow to the hype party so I'm super stoked I'm not writing this blog mid-March :)

With all that said, the past 20-ish days have been transformative! I'm taking a really cool parenting class and it's totally focused on raising kids with a Growth Mindset. I've been a Mama for 27 years, but this #BoyMom life is a whole new level of parenting. Rowyn Matthew is the absolute best thing that has ever happened to me "ever in the history of ever" as he would say, and he's been tested in more ways than you can imagine an 8 year old would. It's all made him stronger and our bond greater, but I just want to make sure he doesn't fall into a lot of the bad behavior patterns he's witnessed over the past couple years. One HUGE thing I'm being mindful of is WORDS. More specifically KEY WORDS. You now how it goes, the person that we speak to most is ourselves - inside our own heads. Those negative voices can really make or break how we act and react in our day-to-day lives. You already know my love of the word Okay from last months blog, but today it's all about the power of YET!

Initially this word became a focus for me in December, while making 2019 goals and dream boards. I kept feeling myself focus on what I didn't do in 2018, how I fell short. What didn't come to fruition. And then that glorious emotional spiral of failure hits me while I'm paralyzed to even think about 2019... So I threw the word YET at the end. Yes, one simple word we use 75,000 times a day totally changes the ENTIRE vibe! example - "Welp, I didn't take the family to Hawaii like we planned." was how it started, so I got myself in the habit of saying, "We haven't made it to Hawaii yet!" and that small shift in the way I approached it, did a few key things... 1. Gave myself some dang Grace. My goodness, if ONLY I was as easy on myself as I am on others?! 2. Allowed me to move goal timelines, not cancel them - so I didn't feel like a failure. 3. Gave me permission to set an even greater goal, within the re-tooling of the old goals. Instead of "I can't" its, "I haven't yet". And then from there you can dig in and figure out what worked well, and what didn't as you move forward! It's the most simple thing, that causes a ripple for the 50 other things you do after it! So, prepare yourselves to hear a whole lotta YET from this girl :) xoxo CM